HELLO DECEMBER!!

Possibly the best (and the worst) time to be a parent 😣 THE excitement for Christmas, the build up , the tantrums. The ‘can I have that please mummy’ at every damn advert on the tele. Yet you feel guilty. You just can’t bring yourself to get the Christmas stuff out yet.

You know that 1 hour til bed time. Counting down the minutes til you get some beloved time alone (or if it’s anything like my house time to catch up on chores 😣) , yet as soon as you look at your beautiful babies fast asleep, looking all innocent, your heart goes and you feel sick knowing that just half hour ago your so close to loosing the will to live because L won’t stop crying and M won’t stop clinging.

It’s normal. Your not a bad parent. A tired one? Probably. But then isn’t that just the definition of motherhood? 🤔 Forever tired.

The electronic baby sitter. Everyone has one. Don’t they? That I’m just doing dinner, ‘M will you please stop screaming your hungry and you ‘can’t wait’ because your clearly starving’ 🙄 So what do you do? Oh come sit here sweet heart, come play on the iPad whilst mummy finishes dinner. Just so I don’t end up burning the house down trying to entertain you and cook at the some time!

Maybe it’s feeling guilty that your secretly eating half a chocolate cake in the kitchen but you have told the children they must have a healthy, well balanced breakfast. That your sneaking the snickers away and shoving it down your throats whilst tending the washing because some things are just too good to share! ‘What you eating mum?’ Oh just raisin’s baby. Oh I don’t like raisin’s mummy. ‘I know babes’ (lets not tell her they are chocolate covered ones 🙈)

All those lovely drawings your children bring that home that you can’t make out. You haven’t a clue if that’s mummy, daddy and the dog or if it’s a half dog , quarter cat and just plain quarter ‘what the fuck is that?!’ How many of you have aww’d the first few, lovingly gave grand parents the next few and then, when there just is no space left on the fridge, the bin sees a few. Quickly whilst they arnt looking ‘sending them to santa so they can see your lovely work darling’

Who has used bribery 🙄😣 Even when you know you shouldn’t. That’s not a way to teach your children good morals. But hell, when you just need 5 minutes. You want them to just sit nicely in the trolley so you can do the dreaded weekly shop. ‘Here M, if your a good girl, mummy will buy you a sweet’ just if you please be quiet for 5 god damn minutes so I don’t forget to grab some coffee before I go checkout!!

Those sacred beloved hours/days/night off where you lovingly give your children to some one to catch a break! ! I’m extremely lucky in that I have my parents whom get to watch my beauties every other month for me 🙌🏻 Without that. I probably would not have any sanity left. I would be hanging on by a thread. Because it’s okay to need a break. Or like last night when L woke 9 times! 9 god damn times, that was a long night, so today whilst L napped, I set M up with her playdough. Grabbed my book, a coffee and a snickers and indulged for half hour. It’s okay to need half an hour / half a day to be you, to do something you enjoy. Like eat a meal without having to share or not having to get up to fetch another fork because the one your darling child has isn’t the right one!! You feel guilty.

So, no matter what. It doesn’t matter which parenting style your going for (im especially good at the winging it style) I’m pretty sure most if not all parents experience parent guilt at some point. So don’t beat yourself up, quickly lock yourself in the bathroom. Have a cry, a bar of chocolate , a coffee. Get your wits about you and enjoy it. Everybody has a limit, your human. Just don’t take your babies for granted. You never know whys going to happen. Love and cherish them because they won’t stay babies forever and you will never get this day again ❤️